“My thought is to keep my house down here (golf course) …”
“I’m very comfortable in small groups …”
“.. play golf, pickleball, tennis, etc. I love theater, museums, dining out, etc.”
“I also still have my Celtics season tickets …”
Sir, I think you’re going to be just fine.
If you sign up for three pickleball teams and a few museum tours, you will meet friends your age. You will thrive.
It might take some time, but you won’t have to be very patient. I foresee a few events and activities leading to a full social life, one that might be sad to leave when the weather turns cold.
Some general thoughts:
- 1. Try a bunch of activities, some more than once. Your first guided tour of the Museum of Fine Arts might lead to no new friends. But your second? That could be the fruitful one. Try to pick activities you’d want to do anyway so you’re not miserable. We (the media) are also great for bringing people together. I am always impressed by the lineup at WBUR’s CitySpace, for instance, and I have seen a bit of mingling at every event.
2. Don’t get married again until there’s a great reason. Take your time with that kind of decision. Give yourself many months to adjust to change before deciding that any one person – or any one thing – is the answer to your new version of happiness.
2. Boston and Cambridge are big. I can’t tell if you’re a “foodie in North Cambridge” person, or an “cool East Boston condo by the water” person, or a Back Bay Babe, as we might say at Love Letters.
Stay with your son and take some day trips. I will say: Fenway Park, pickleball courts, and at least three fantastic art museums are all in the same neighborhood, and only a T trip away from the Celtics. Plus, it looks like Time Out Market is staying open.
– Meredith
Readers? Tips for moving to a new place? Tips for splitting the year in two spots? Thoughts on where to move, specifically? Neighborhoods for someone like this letter writer?
